References: Emotional Life And Identity

1. Emotional dysregulation - Wikipedia - The clinical concept of emotions outrunning regulation, including its place in ADHD research — this chapter's opening claim.

2. Rejection sensitive dysphoria - Wikipedia - The community and clinical concept of extreme rejection sensitivity, its origins with William Dodson, and its non-DSM status — presented with the same honesty this chapter uses.

3. Self-compassion - Wikipedia - The research construct behind this chapter's repair section: what self-compassion is, how it's measured, and its documented effects.

4. Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself - Kristin Neff - William Morrow - Neff created the research field of self-compassion; her three-component model and the finding that self-kindness improves follow-through where shame degrades it are the engine of this chapter's repair work.

5. Daring Greatly - Brené Brown - Avery - Brown's research distinction between guilt ("I did a bad thing") and shame ("I am the bad thing") — and shame's hide-and-avoid mechanics — is the exact framework this chapter applies to the unopened-mail spiral and the twenty-year file.

6. Emotional self-regulation - Wikipedia - The skills science behind pausing, reappraisal, and the ninety-second window this chapter's toolkit uses.

7. ADDitude Magazine - ADDitude - The largest collection of clinician-reviewed RSD and emotional-dysregulation articles, including Dodson's original pieces.

8. How to ADHD - Jessica McCabe - Identity-after-diagnosis and emotional-toolkit content that models the shame-free voice this chapter is written in.

9. ADDA - Attention Deficit Disorder Association - Adult peer community — the room where shame does its fastest unlearning, per this chapter's community section.

10. 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline - SAMHSA - The US crisis line, here because emotional-life chapters must carry it: call or text 988, 24/7.